Monday, September 16, 2013'♥
Characteristic of a deal breaker:
1. You work harder than he does to fix his problems or make the relationship better.
2. You keep asking yourself, " Is it him or is it me?"
3.You hope that he will magically become better at some point in the future ( for instance, that he will become sober, stop controlling you, become more affectionate, achieve more, et cetera ). And u recognize that if he doesn't, you will be intolerably unhappy.
4.You constantly worry about how the relationship is going to affect your future.
5.You constantly suppress your personality in order to avoid conflicts.
6.You feel mistrusted to such a great degree that you are frightened to have outside friends or influences.
7. He feels that you are either "for him" or "against him". When he is in a good emotional place, he believes that you are on his side. When he is in a bad emotional place, he feels that you are against him and do not have his best interests at stake.
8.You, and only you, are unhappy.
9.You long to make connection with him but are unable to do so.
10.You care more about him than he seemingly does about you.
11.He consistently draws his own conclusions without listening to what you are saying. Thus, you are a product of his fantasies and he is incapable of recognizing you as an individual with thoughts, feelings, and motivations of your own.
12.He lacks empathy or remorse and is unconcerned about how you feel.
13.You meet his needs, but he seldom meets yours.
14.Problems are never resolved, and nothing is ever gained.
(Dr Bethany M. 2007)
